I really think you need to go to your counselling center and ask for a list of outside therapists. Whether you get back together or not you have to take care of yourself. Right now you aren't doing that.

The best advice about dealing with a BP partner take care of yourself. Realize that your choosing to ride the "highs" and lows with her. You can't determine if she'll get help. You have to accept her as she is non-medicated. Educate yourself about BP and how it affects her.