I will start by saying that I have had relationships with women, and I consider myself about as bi as one could be, if we're talking Kinsey scale concepts. I have had feelings for at least one woman during the long time I've been married, although I haven't acted on them-- but I suspect, as a lack of defense in myself-- that it was because of the other person's unwillingness, not mine.

I think that feelings are often information that tell us something important. And I think that information gives us power in our lives to make changes that are good for us, or at least to mindfully consider our options, and that is also a good thing.

Thanks for raising the issue.