Well for some yes, for others no, and there are lots of people who like light bondage but don't consider themselves into BDSM at all, which is perfectly fine, me and my boyfriend have non kink sex on occasion but we definitely wouldn't call ourselves vanilla

For me the focus is on D/s dynamic, I always knew in a relationship I wanted someone that would be a protector, a teacher, a guide, someone who would take charge. I had read some erotica BDSM stories but I never fully understood what I wanted, because I didn't understand thr what the name for it was, I met my boyfriend on a dating website and he was very open and honest about that a D/s dynamic.is what he needed in a relationship and I was curious and really was smitten with him from our yahoo chats already so I began asking questions about what it meant and I discovered it was.what i had been looking for.

Playing around with bondage and pain came later and I found out I enjoyed those things too, as well as many other things.

BDSM is a wide range of things, and everyone is different there are lots of people into bondage but not D/s, there are people into D/s that never do pain or bondage. And there are lots of people that like to play around with BDSM elements with their partners on occasion. ,but don't consider themselves a part of BDSM.

You can always PM me if you have questions, sometimes I am a little slow to respond because of my hectic schedule but I will always get back to you