The issue is not about money.

The issue is about reality.

The reality is that Rainbow is in therapy FOR the relationship, which she refuses to see the realism of it. Her lack of reality about what relationships consist of is actually quite sad and highlights the level of selfishness that exists.

T-relationship is all about her. She doesn't have to give anything in return. T is there. T's also can't say "Stop focusing on email, your daughter just had a beautiful child!" Or "I am 25 years younger than you Rainbow, do you really think we have much in common? I am a therapist... this is my JOB" or "Rainbow, you are bothering me with your constant focus on wanting me to fulfill your needs. It's really annoying because I don't always want to hold your hand. I am your therapist, not your husband." That real-in-your-face slap of reality would probably make most clients leave. T's need to keep the payment coming.

We are not talking about someone in therapy learning about relationships because they have not had "appropriate" ones throughout their life. That is very valid in therapy. Rainbow is trying to get her perceived "needs" and "wants" met from the therapist by creating a relationship that does not exist.

Think about the recent display of selfishness about the salary of T's. Did you ever say why you are angry that T's make so much money???
T's are people who have to deal with alot of **** and the reality is they are GROSSLY underpaid. You of all people should want to pay more, because of what you require from T's.

Real relationships are give-and-take, sharing and giving, respecting boundaries, helping others in need, and YES, sometimes doing more for others than they do for you.... especially as a parent or grandparent.

The T'-relationship is real, but is is not realistic. It is a vehicle for self-growth and change to be applied.

Instead of saying you don't love your husband, you should be using what you learn in therapy to work on that or figure out how to improve it. You are not interested in that, though. Relationships are TWO-way streets... that is the reality.