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Originally Posted by Chopin99
So I decided to share who I am in a relatively small, safe setting, but because it appears my sharing is coming across as attention-seeking, I will cease.
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I'm not sure what you mean. What is the small, safe setting? Do you mean therapy? That you were able to share in the safe setting of therapy? And now you worry what you have said in therapy comes across as attention-seeking? What does your T think? Or do you mean that PsychCentral is the small setting? (I don't think of PC as small!)
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Originally Posted by Chopin99
These are my questions:
1. Do I come across as selfish?
2. Have I always come across this way or is it a recent development?
3. Have I offended anyone and how did I do so?
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Here are my honest answers. 1. You don't come across as selfish to me because your posts don't stand out in my mind. There are so many posters here on PC, and my memory skills are not topnotch, so I have to know someone for a while to have their posts stand out, or they have to be either incredibly obnoxious or insightful or really in sync with me to make me remember the poster. When I try to recall your posts to test in my mind if they seem selfish, I cannot really recall what your posts are like. I think they blend into the overall picture of PC for me--lots of people posting their experiences and advice and insights, trying to be supportive, and adding to our family here. I definitely consider you a PT forum family member "in good standing." I do not have any negative recollections when I think of "Chopin99." I do think you have sometimes responded to posts I have made and I don't recall anything negative. I think your posts are fine!
2. I don't recall any changes in your posts, but I don't keep close track of this type of thing.
3. You definitely have not offended me.
If you feel your posts are selfish, you can always try to change.
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Originally Posted by Chopin99
I have stayed here despite begging from my H and my T to leave. H thinks it is a waste of time. T believes that it is keeping me from forming new RL relationships which she believes I desperately need.
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Do you think there is some truth in that? How much time do you spend here a day? If it is too much, maybe try to cut back? Maybe to 30 minutes a day? Like a favorite daily hobby or a TV show? Or if that is already your current level of usage, perhaps cut back to 30 minutes every other day? You will know what would be a good amount, based on your current usage. If people are "begging" you to leave, that sounds like your amount of use may be unhealthy. "Begging" is a strong word.
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Originally Posted by Chopin99
I am beginning to wonder if I need to leave this forum, temporarily or permanently.
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Why would it have to be all or nothing? Before deciding to leave, maybe try the "cut back my time here" strategy.