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Originally Posted by hankster
I kinda feel like I need to explain my response. Sis's post IS gorgeous and romantic, I agree. But I think it's idealistic and therefore not practical. Sis is in the honeymoon phase of a r/s - everything still looks possible. But for a couple who are trying to stay together in a traditional r/s after 40 years - Idk. I'm not sure what I want to say. I agree h is not really mad about the money, but about what it represents. But sis is telling rainbow what it represents to sIs, instead of rainbow saying what It means to raInbow. And then I was going by the legality of the situation - the money belongs to both of us.
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I dunno. I'm way past the honeymoon phase, but I still believe that you won't get a relationship any better than the standards to which you hold it. It can be painful to realize a relationship is way out of balance, or that both parties need to change a lot about they way they behave and relate to each other, but that doesn't make it impossible or even impractical. Just painful. I can't fault anyone for avoiding pain, but if the avoidance results in a lowering of standards, that's pretty much what you'll get. No one can make their partner change, but it's still on that person to decide what kind of relationship they want, and what kind of standards they have for themselves.