> I can see that sometimes she just wants to be liked by people, so she offers them everything, but when she can't deliver, that becomes a problem.

Ah.

I guess... Her husband is trying to protect her. Therapy could help. But if you confronted her... It might just hurt her and make her feel bad.

Does it help if you kind of... Don't have expectations about her following through on promises and the like? I imagine it must be really hard... But sometimes... The best we can do is accept people for who they are. Also... If you do that then she might not feel the need to lie / talk herself up so much.