I won't say you made the wrong choice. However, keep in mind that once the therapy is over, the therapist is not supposed to stay in touch or be "friends" with a former patient.

"Transference" is a term related to the therapeutic process. I'd be surprised if that's what was happening in real-life relationships. Sure, people can get involved with or even marry someone who reminds them of their parent of the opposite sex, but Freud thought that was normal!

The reason transference generally occurs in therapy is that the therapist tries to not tell the patient much about him- or her-self and so the patient comes to view the therapist like someone from the past who was important to him/her. Freud even had the patients in front of him, lying on the couch, so they couldn't see him, and he said very little during the sessions......Not all types of therapy are designed to encourage transference. You might have feelings of liking for the therapist, but that's generally because the therapist is nice and is supportive and is trying to help. Some people refer to therapists as "friends who are paid for."

That's my take, anyway. I used to teach psychology.