Yes. You both completely know where are I am coming from. But I'd just say that's the feelings (not the thoughts) that's tricking me into the wrong direction. The feelings 'paint' everything in a different color.

Someone talking louder than normal could have a strong voice, be in a hurry, or be yelling at you.

Someone answering 'no' could have a legitimate reason to that, or maybe just emotional reasons (and you are not entitle to a 'yes' anyway).

I wish I could tell someone every detail about some incident and he would explain to me the gravity.