thanks for your response. Its an interesting term I guess and I have not been thinking of it as exclusive to the therapist-client relationship. Perhaps I am hanging my hat on the wrong "term" in that case.

What I feel happens to me is that as a result of getting the attention and support I crave at certain times in my life, I start to develop "feelings" for the person showering me with that support. It has happened to me with friends, teachers, and now a therapist.

There is obviously a desire for a certain level of attention and I then drag it out of context and this person suddenly is on my mind every minute of the day. Not cool. Not realistic and not overly helpful overall.

Considering the lines are already blurred I probably have to make a decision to continue to have her as my therapist or forget about that and accept her friendship. Good therapist are hard to find though, so I feel torn.....