I dunno. As a parent, the fifth or sixth or sixtieth time my kid pulled the cookie jar off the shelf, I would no longer be giving that kid empathy or support. I would still love the kid but I'd be saying, "serves you right" and thinking the pain was self inflicted and might serve to teach the child a lesson since he or she was clearly not listening to me. In fact, if the behavior continued, I would probably start imposing punishment in addition to whatever self inflicted punishment the kid was receiving from hurting him or herself.

Like if my child ran out in the street, I would NOT pull him out of the street and reward the behavior by showering him with love. I would WANT to do that, but for his sake, I would be VERY stern and really get after him verbally. Only when I was sure he understood the error of what he did would I cuddle him and tell him how much I adore him and would hate to see anything happen to him.