Chopin, I agree that was an unfortunate word choice and not what I actually have ever said to my kids. Usually I said something more like, "now do you understand why I tell you not to do that?" My point remains that I believe that improper behavior should not be encouraged by showing support. For me and for most trainers of various types (human, canine and horse) that I have met, showing support or affection in the wake of poor behavior reinforces that behavior rather than extinguishing it.