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Old Feb 24, 2013, 02:17 PM
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Originally Posted by My kids are cool View Post
Chopin, I agree that was an unfortunate word choice and not what I actually have ever said to my kids. Usually I said something more like, "now do you understand why I tell you not to do that?" My point remains that I believe that improper behavior should not be encouraged by showing support. For me and for most trainers of various types (human, canine and horse) that I have met, showing support or affection in the wake of poor behavior reinforces that behavior rather than extinguishing it.
I like this choice of wording. That's a teaching moment.

It does reinforce it. I've been teaching my employees about this lately because sometimes they will coddle a client following a negative behavior...thus the behavior continues, increases, and escalates.

That's why I like natural consequences. Nature's teacher is quite fine, even without our help!
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