I find it so very unfortunate that members think it's okay to post on a thread and argue between themselves over each other's posts. This certainly is not supportive of the OP in any way shape or form.
Not everyone is expected to agree with everyone else. There are ways of being supportive even when we disagree. Showing a lack of respect to another member for their thoughts and/or ideas is far from showing support. One can disagree with someone but be respectful in that disagreement.
Unfortunately, when members begin arguing, it takes the focus off the OP and the issue they are posting about. That is one reason why this thread will be closed at this time. It has definitely run it's course and then some.
Once again, I will remind everyone of the following posted by DocJohn -
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You know, we all have opinions, and a part of a support community such as ours is to share our experiences, insights, thoughts and opinions with others in a way that hopefully they can take something positive away from them.
But if someone disagrees with our opinion or insight into an issue, that doesn't make one person "right" and the other person "wrong." It just means that even after further consideration, they have chosen to take a different path than us.
We have gotten too many reports and see too many members in this forum who are focused on being in the "right" and knowing, beyond any doubt, that their perspective and opinion is the "right" one for any particular situation shared by another member here.
It's time to put this attitude and judgment to rest. Opinions are neither right nor wrong -- they are simply one person's perspective on a situation. If someone disagrees with your opinion, that doesn't make them wrong, an idiot, or without insight. It makes them different than you, that's all.
I would like to see more members in this forum focused on the support aspect, rather than the sharing of what they believe is the "right" perspective on a situation.
Remember, others will continue to make mistakes -- that's how we learn -- whether they follow or don't follow your advice or opinion. The key is to offer it in a supportive manner, and then let it go. If someone has a followup question, it's fine to answer it.
But it is not okay to defend your opinion to the death and to act like it is the only right way of looking at a situation -- in this forum, or any forum in our community. That is not supportive, and not in the spirit of our community.
Thank you for your cooperation and understanding in this matter.
DocJohn
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