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Originally Posted by WikidPissah
I think when dealing with adults they should be treated like adults, not children. My mother included. I am not here to teach her anything, I just do what I have to do to keep myself sane. I was joking when I said "that will teach her", because she's a narcissist, nothing will teach her.
I am "supposed" to go to a group cancer meeting now. T encourages these, I hate them. Really don't want to listen to the whole "who's cancer is worse" routine. I hate whining complaining people. Plus it's a depressing place, I'd rather hang with the living.
I can't drink alcohol because of side effects from treatment.
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And that's the realization I came to. What you did was the right thing to do; instead of rewarding her by taking her to lunch, you dropped her off at her house. Natural consequence. It's also really not your place to teach her, especially since she has shown no indication of wanting to change. If she sincerely wanted to change, she would do what it takes to do that. When I realized I was hurting my loved ones and wanted to change 10 years ago, I called a T and a Pdoc and admitted, "I need help."
Your support group sounds completely non-supportive. What is the point of one-upping one another over cancer? Is there a facilitator in this meeting? If so, what does he/she do when this occurs.
Sorry about the vodka. I'd miss my occasional vodka, wine, and hard cider.