I did say that yes, and at the time I prayed you wouldn't hold it against me. But like Anika, I believe that behaviours can be altered, improved upon, if the person is willing and has the right tools or guide. Its in no way set in stone. Not in my book anyway.

You have made progress in leaps and bounds, and I am über-proud of you Hammy

So dont get caught up in the labels or traits, but rather how you can evolve away from it