I don't know much about the topic, but what I have read both terrifies and excites me... the only thing is, I would likely be using it to re-play abuse and follow-through on those fantasies that play out in my head... I know that's not the "right" reason to engage in it, but it is exciting as much as terrifying... is this common among the community? Just trying to get a grasp on this... I have never heard of the things that go on in my head actually going on in rl with actual people that are not out to hurt you in that way... it intrigues me that I'm just now finding out about it... and I'm trying to figure out what exactly my motivations for it would be... does anyone know where I can get more info on it?