Hello there, and welcome to the forum.

Am sorry that things have got so difficult for you guys and that you're hurting.

I do not have much advice, but I do know that its very very hard to work things out if one partner isn't talking. Its quite unfair - and not talking to you is just as hurtful am sure, so she isn't protecting you.

Do you know if there are other things that are making her seek others? How is her home life? Is there anything that you guys can do to make the home life a bit more interesting, if that's what she needs? I was thinking along the lines of perhaps you guys can try and reconnect - get a babysitter and go out for date nights or something fun, for you both. Perhaps rekindle some of those feelings that you had before family life and a ton of responsibilities come along.

As for asking her to stop talking to the other people, well, I am not a person who normally makes demands, but she is being unfair. She IS still married to you, and living with you, and she really shouldn't be doing this while you are together. Will she stop the communication with this man if you explain that you really want to try and get things back together, and would just like a chance without another person looming in the background? She should at least give you this if she is serious about trying to fix things. Will she stop if you ask, or will she just carry on without telling you?

I do wish you all the very best, and I hope someone here can give better advice than I. Please keep us posted if you can?

Hugs.