healed I also think this was very brave and especially to bring it up. Most of us in fact all of us have these thoughts and then we hide them away and pretend they don't exist, Feelings scream at us to be heard and once we acknowledge them they sometimes quiet down. I agree we are not in control of our feelings but we can control our actions. I have had soooo many emotional affairs but have never acted on them but thats just me everyone is different