I didn't mean to chuckle when I read your blog, but couldn't help myself

My boyfriend is going through the same thing with his 2 oldest daughters right now. Both are as close in age and both of legal age (in Canada) as well.

They are in constant competition, yet both are no longer willing to submit to the "rules of the house." Both have also tried bringing it over to our place...
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My boyfriend and his ex (who has custody and whom the children live with) agreed that, for the peace of the family and especially for the youngest (very upsetting to her- she's much younger), the 2 are now old enough to be out on their own and have set in motion, plans for them leave the nest, so to speak.

Both are unwilling to continue with higher education, so there is really no excuse for them to be staying at home. Both are capable of learning to rely on themselves - they just don't want to because they literally have the world handed to them on a plate - and they know it!!

I think it's time to let your boys experience life on their own, if they are able to (I don't know much of your situation other than this blog, so please forgive and avoid this messgae if I am on the wrong track). You may be surprised at how quickly their relationship will change after that.

In my boyfriend's case, the girls are now getting along much better; are keeping in closer contact with each other now than they did when living at home (other than the sneak attacks against each other); and are co-operating with each other in helping maintain their own independence.

It is really quite cool to watch them grow like that!

All the best to you - you need it - you got BOYS!



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