She told me off for terminating by email . “It devalues our relationship. You should always do that in person.”

At first glance this sounds silly, but I can see her point. She’s saying, “Don’t stab me in the back. Look me in the eye and stab me.” I can understand that. I would feel the same.

There is in fact a reason I stabbed her in the back. When I was left the Bad Group, I said right at the start of the session: “I’m leaving the group and this is my first termination session.” They told me I couldn’t do that. If I announce my departure this session, the next session is termination session one.

I didn’t trust my own T not to pull the same stunt, so I emailed her setting out the termination schedule. She was right. I was disrespecting our relationship. The baleful influence of the Bad Group reaches beyond the grave.

I told her I was still upset about not her supporting me over my daughter in October.

Me: I can forgive you that, but it will only happen again. I have lost faith that you will support me in the way I want to be supported.
T: In that case, you are right to seek another therapist.

So that’s that. But is it really what I wanted to hear?