I agree with you. I feel that she has all the hallmarks of BPD but I don't know. The thing that gets me is I seem to have more signs of a PD pull/push cycles, abandonment issues, attachment issues. But her idea of the world is everything's bad, everyone's horrible, nothing is going to ever work out. I'm fed up with it all now and to be honest I get the impression she has been looking for extra attention outside of our marriage and spends her whole time pointing out the floors in the relationship rather than working on it.

Just wondering what do you mean by 'get to relate.'