I don't really know what to do anymore. I honestly think she would just blame everything on me whilst slipping into her victim role. Really I think the relationship is over, we're like chalk and cheese. I think it's just childhood issues keeping us together.

She told my therapist I need more confidence but with confidence comes boundaries and I think this would drive her mad. Ironic really! All I know is I've been miserable for years, convincing myself I'm happy but I just can't go on like this anymore. Maybe working on co-dependency would help me. I'm going to discuss with my therapist if any of her behaviour is consistent with BPD. I intend to work on my issues because I except I'm not perfect but for this relationship to work I think there's going to have to be a lot of work from both sides. I can't see that happening. I think that marriage counceling would just be seen as a chance to blame me for everything.