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Originally Posted by peaches100
Hi Kala83,
I understand feeling worthless. Like you, I've had my mistakes pointed out to me far too many times. After being reminded so often about how you screw things up, you end up feeling pretty worthless, and like you can't do anything right.
It is taking therapy for me to learn how to feel more value toward myself. Are you in therapy?
I am learning that some people are just very critical by nature. Some people naturally go around pointing out people's mistakes. Are the people who are critical toward you also critical toward others? Do they point out other people's mistakes all the time also? If so, then realize that the problem may not be you at all. The problem might be the person who is critical toward everybody else.
It helps also to know that none of us can please everybody all the time. No matter how hard we try, there will always be somebody who will misunderstand us, criticize us, or take offense at what we do. So part of growth is realizing that we can't escape criticism. All we can do is weigh the criticism to see if there is any truth to it. If so, we try to improve ourselves. If not, we have to dismiss it and let it roll off our back.
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I am going to therapy right now....its general stuff I think...I kind of have to try to organize things of what all I want to talk about on my own.
I am on a wait list of a more extensive therapy for people that have BPD
it doesn't help that not all of diagnosis have been carried out just yet. But I only just started seeking out help a year ago so its a slow process in general.
the issue is where I live right now, is kind of a negative environment. My family has always been quick to critique or judge if they can.
and its difficult to deal with. I want to try doing therapy with my mother so we can improve things. But I have a lot to deal with in general.