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Originally Posted by CantExplain
She told me off for terminating by email . “It devalues our relationship. You should always do that in person.”
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So you met with her after terminating by email? It seems like that is a chance to say the things it sounds like she wishes you would have said and she would have said if you had terminated in person? So she got her chance to see you in person after your email termination? I'm a little confused, but it sounds like you did meet with her and got to discuss this. I do agree with her about terminating in person, at least as far as my own T goes. I would never terminate by email with him because of our long and valued relationship. I would honor our relationship and all we had gone through together by telling him in person. But I know not everyone has that kind of a relationship with their T. It almost sounds as if she thought you had a stronger relationship than you did. She expected you to honor that by terminating in person, but to you, it was not so important and you didn't value or honor the relationship as much as she did, so you were OK to just do it by email. So maybe she was a little taken aback you valued the relationship so little, or at least less than she. That is one interpretation.
I don't really understand all the stabbing talk.
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
Me: I can forgive you that, but it will only happen again. I have lost faith that you will support me in the way I want to be supported.
T: In that case, you are right to seek another therapist.
So that’s that. But is it really what I wanted to hear?
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I don't know. What did you want to hear? You terminated her so you might be glad she agrees you should see someone else? But if you were not glad to hear that, maybe you didn't really want to terminate?