I like someone who can go deep with me. I am not big on the surface kind of work. I like someone who is creative in therapy and flexible. I would not like a therapist who uses the same techniques with all clients. I like someone who gets to know what the client needs and then uses the most appropriate approaches. I like someone who sees me as a partner in my own care, not a top-down sort of therapist. I like someone who is empathetic and who has healing as one of his goals for what he provides to clients. I like someone who is a good communicator and does not get defensive. I like someone who "gets me", who it is not too much of a struggle to explain myself to.

My T uses a lot of different techniques. One of the most memorable for me has been Ego State Therapy. This just really clicked for me, even though it has taken up but a small portion of the therapy time we have spent together. It just seemed the perfect thing for that time, was very creative, I learned a whole lot about myself, and got some healing from it. I will always remember that piece of our work, and I am glad he had that approach in his toolbox. I guess I like a T with a lot of tools because you never know what you will need.