Maybe it takes time to heal. When my wife told me she was raped by her ex bf I was angry with her ex. I don't know the guy and I can't do anything to change the past. I wasn't angry with her, just angry that someone could hurt someone I care about so much. Then I felt sad about her pain and what she went thru. I just try to be there for her. I don't bring it up, but I'm there if she wants to talk about it. I think after a while she came to terms with what happened and now she is happy she is with someone who cares for her.