You are not your mood swings, You are not your bad behaviors either. Careful in making the disorder a part of you. Those do not make any of you who you are. What makes you who you are is your passions, your likes, dislikes, your underlying personality rather than the overly emotionalness that always masks the real you. You would still be you without the disorder, just able to cope, able to handle life better and function more successfully.

I know who I am. I am the father of my children, and I am very important in their life. I am a friend to many people online, and although I lack friends in real life, the ones that I've made connections with her and elsewhere are in every way just as real. I know that I am an artist, and I know that I am a gamer. I have many other likes, bents and perspectives on life that would never change for the most part if I were not BPD. those are the things that make me, me... so also you.

I would ask those questions of yourself, what do you know you are in your heart? i can tell you a lot of people here what they are, but I'm not going to single them out.. and I know without a doubt BPD is not the reason they are those things

This is one thing I've learned to separate from my identity. I bounce around identity wise but I do not want to "identify" with a disorder. it's like saying to someone that has an immune deficiency that who they are is a sick person with the flu all the time. Their sickness doesn't make them who they are right? it may affect some of their behaviors but it's not WHO THEY ARE.

Ok ::: steps off soap box :::