Hi Nightsky,
First, congratulations on reaching out to a new t! That's a really big step considering all you've been through.
I'm sending positive thoughts your way that this guy is sensitive and understanding, and once he hears how your relationship with your previous t ended, will realize and convey to you that just making this appointment is something to be proud of. Him not feeling he can take you on, and being afraid of being abandoned again must feel so overwhelming. Unfortunately, it is possible due to the fact that many ts evenones that say they specialize in trauma, really aren't prepared to deal with the reality of working with someone with a trauma history and the sensitivity and relational work this requires on the part of the t. Also, I could be wrong but I thought I remember you saying something about having DID, or being on that spectrum, and I know this is also something unfortunately profesionals can shy away from this. I guess though, any t can decide not to take a client on, just like any client can decide a t isn't a good fit for them. I know how especially hurtful this would be though given your situation.
If it does happen that he feels he isn't the right one, I would hope he could give you a referral or two.
Lastly, I'm curious. Have you ever worked with a female t? Would this be something you'd be interested in? I guess I just come from the bias of always working with female ts, and never being able to imagine having a male.
Please keep us posted on all this and again, great work so far!