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Originally Posted by BorderlineMess
I'm going to school full time and working about 30-32 hours a week. I only take a fifteen minute break for lunch to eat some food. I go straight from work to class. I'm starting to become overwhelmed with my schedule. I've asked for some time off from work and my boss (who's also my dad) said he'll think about it. I missed school today because I've become depressed and apathetic. My anxiety is up, my energy is low, I'm sleeping all the time, barely leaving my apartment unless I have to.
I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow and I'll tell her about my problems, but I don't know how to fix them permanently. I think I was a bit over zealous going to school and work and now I don't know what to do with either one. Do I quit working? Do I quit school? I don't want to do either. But I know it's all wearing me thin. I'm supposed to work tomorrow but I swear I don't feel up to it. And part of me wants to call my dad and give him a heads up that I won't be able to make it to work. Last time I called out he was truly pissed and yelled at me. I'm scared of the repercussions. But I have no will to work or to go to school, even though I enjoy both.
Any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated.
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I would never work for my father, first off. That just pust undue stress on the boss/employee relationship. You do things you wouldn't do with a non related boss and you're pressured to not do things you would feel free to do with said boss. If you have a regular working relationship, you'd have PTO in most normal situations and most of the time it's not that they have to give you permission, but you have the right to call in sick regardless of the reason. I'm sorry the fact that it's your father is the only reason he has the balls to say "I'll think about it". He could at least either say farking yes or no.. Jeez. that's fcked up. I'm sorry I feel for you... that's just unacceptable IMO. I've been a manager at times for several years and I know what much of the rules are. He is acting more as a dad than an employer in that situation if you ask me and it's not very professional.
As for quitting either, resist the urge and look for alternatives. You'll feel worse about yourself either quitting school or work, it won't do you much good, you'll have more time but that time will be spent self loathing and beating yourself up for quitting. I know you enough to know that. Cut back on one or the other. cut back on school, at least you could go part time until you get your head together. if it's feasible, cut back on work but it just doesn't sound like DAD will be open to that idea. he'd probably have to think on that for a month too
seriously this is just my opinon but lose the job, not to quit working but find one without a family member as your boss. I honestly think it's probably causing a good portion of your stress.