gab, I wish I had some advice to give you, but I am not knowledgable yet in that area. I admire you greatly for doing all that was to help make the marriage survive, but if it is not, then at least you can comfort yourself with the fact you tried, and you know maybe it is time to move on, it happens, and it is better for both than to fake a marriage that in reality has stopped existing. I feel for you, it must be hell to get the courage up to end it, but down the road it will give you both new avenues in life. . . a new life, and perhaps even a better quality of life, so saying goodbye to one another may actually be a good thing, life is too short to be miserable.
I wish you lots of luck with this challenge, but I am sure in the long run it will work out and you both can move on with your lives, even if it means being back to seperate, single individuals once again, divorce and end to a marriage doesn't mean an end to life, go out there and enjoy and live the rest of your life

((((((((((((((((((((( gab )))))))))))))))))))

DE

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SOLON