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Old Feb 25, 2013, 09:40 PM
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I would like to know when that changed. I would like to know where a sense of pride went. IMO this is not a political issue, this is morals issue. If you are in need of social services, I am truly sorry for your issues and take this money with my blessing.

I would get so angry when the recession started. People would say "I'm not going to work at McDonalds, I was a..." Well why the hell not? If that what it takes to feed your family why wouldn't you? I did. My husband has a degree and an excellent job. When his hours were cut he got a second part-time job at Burger King.

I guess that I was raised differently. There is no shame in working. I remember being a little girl. My Great Grandfather was a kind and gentle man. The only harsh words that he ever spoke to me was when I saw a friend of mine working with his father who was the garbage collector. I started laughing and made some stupid comment that I do not remember. What I do remember was the disappointment in my grandfather's eyes when he middle named me and showed me the error of my ways.

There are people out there that need these services. How do you not understand that by taking them when you do not need them not only hurts those that do, but the rest of society as well?

I know that many of our family and friends are frustrated with me. My oldest has many disabilities. He has pretty severe learning disabilities and some moderate mental ones. When he graduated, we got many different offers of assistance for him, which I turned down. He is our son and we are able to support him, so why would I need the government to help? He works at McDonald's doing truck four hours a week. That puts enough money in his pocket to buy whatever he does not want to ask us for. But family and friends believe I am denying him the ability to be independant. What would happen if something were to happen to my husband and myself? Well I have an answer for you. I have already spoken to one of my children. And God forbid something happens to the two of us, that child will happily take him in. Why? Because it's not the government's responsibility to take care of our family its ours.
Some people still feel this way. I had just divorced my abusive husband, put myself through college, graduated and had the longest bipolar manic episode of my life ..9 months. I got dx'd, struggled to find any job I could take for a year. I was a huge mess and sinking fast with no family or any support. My pdoc finally convinced me to apply for disability, it still took me months to admit I needed help. Not something I ever thought I would need.

Now I am working again now that I am stable. I have a very non glam job as a houskeeper, but it's work, it's money I need for my kids. I am starting late but we have to start somewhere. I can see the reaction on peoples face when they ask where I work, but it's ok. I feel better about being able to help provide for my children.

CastlesInTheAir, I payed for my education too, people with kids don't have to pay tuition in the states? I am in Canada, and we pay ..tuition is pretty high here.
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