A summary of how I'm doing: My phobia of sex was gradually improving. Gradually. And then I got put on a whole new medication and it pretty much went away. My therapist thinks it had to do with performance anxiety, and he says the medication has taken away the menial anxiety and that's why I'm okay with it now.

Edit: btw, I was always really afraid of the pain of breaking the hymen. Well, I switched to menstrual cups (which are relatively large compared to tampons) and in my determination to be eco-friendly, I pretty much broke the hymen all by myself. So no more worries about that. :P