I never renacted abuse through BDSM, to me it has allowed me to be free to embrace my sexuality and feel safe about it. I freeze more when me and my boyfriend have non-kink sex. To me BDSM, particularly being a submissive to a Dominant has given me more freedom to embrace my sexuality, because I know I am safe, I know I am in a dynamic that someone is there protecting me and we have safe guards in place to stop things if I get to scared, triggered, or anxious

Yes there are people that do explore BDSM as a means to heal from sexual abuse, everyone heals a different way, but please if you decide this is the right way for you to heal be SAFE! Use your good judgement and honesty honesty honesty is the most important key in any relationship or sexual exchange, but particularly in BDSM. There are lots of great, helpful, honest and kind people in the BDSM community, but just like in every facet of life there are also those there looking to prey on others. If something sounds wrong, it probably is, if you feel red flags, listen to them!

There are many websites avaliable to you in exploring BDSM, Fetlife is a great one and I recently discovered a forum called BDSM Sanctuary, it uses the same forum set up as this, it takes a bit to start moving around on there (they have to accept your account request before you can post and that takes up to a day) but it is a bit tamer than Fetlife so it may be easier for you to explore. Both sites are free to join, also Fetlife is kinda of like facebook but with much more privacy, you have to be signed up to the site to see proflies, pictures, posts, forums, anything and you can always set all pictures to private, most people on there use avatars like here on psychcentral. Though many people also post more adult pictures so if you feel that is too much to soon then I would wait.

If you ever have anymore questions please feel free to message me anytime,