I think it is excellent to be thinking about qualities in a new therapist. I do hope, though, that you don't spend all your money on first sessions for a bunch of therapists, until you can find one who will agree to coddle you. I'm not sure coddling is part of the official work of therapists, and it might be (although I really don't know) that it's against therapeutic principles. But good luck with it and I hope it turns out well.