Hey yall. I am having a simple issue that I cannot explain to my H because of my lack of knowledge.

My H doesn't like me on the computer. He doesn't mind to bad if I am looking up something. But if I am talking to anyone he gets very defensive. We have talked about insecurity and he swears that is not the issue. ( I doubt that though) anyway last night I made the mistake of laughing, I was in chat here at PC. He got so angry, I was having fun w/ out him. I can only have fun w/ him I guess. I hate being deceptive, and using the computer when he is asleep or outside. I have showed him this site before, it is not like I am hiding things from him, there is nothing to hide. I've talked to people in chat and showed him forums, let him read my visitor messages, and even some of my PM's. So he knows what I am doing. It just bothers him.

I do not have a face book account and neither does he. But he asked me if he got a face book account and he spent his evenings talking to people would I be angry. I tried to explain that PC is not like face book. But w/ out having a face book account I can't fully explain to him how it is different. I know that face book can contain personal information that can be shared. Info that should not be shared. I know that info can be shared stuff you don't want shared and stuff you don't. I know you can talk to friends and make friends. I could understand my H's frustration if I had a face book account and having conversations w/ males in my community, males I used to know, gossiping w/ females I know or what ever. But that is not the case w/ PC. I cannot seem to be able to explain to him that people here live all over the world. As soon as I tell him that he shuts down and says that is so dumb to talk to people I cannot have a relationship/friendship with. He questions why I would want to get involved in the lives of so many people and listen to them complain. (That is not what you guys do, his words not mine) So I can't face book because I might form a personal relationship, and I can't do chat because there is no way I can build a personal relationship. I'm really confused here. It feels like a control thing to me. But w/ the past issues I have (PTSD and such) the way I perceive things is often not the case.

Any advice on this would be helpful. I am particularly interested in a male take on this. Guys think differently then females. Jealousy and insecurities are different in males sometimes I think. Female opinions are welcome to.