I'm not really certain what the answers are here, but I've seen lots of folks who have shared Facebook accounts with their partners. I personally don't get it, but it works for them, I suppose. Why don't you suggest that you both test Facebook out with a shared account for now? It would allow you to connect with friends online, post pictures, share jokes, etc.

Personally, I only add friends to Facebook that I have a relationship with already elsewhere. I live in a very isolated part of the world, so it's the easiest way for me to keep up with everyone's lives back home. It's also easy to get in contact with many friends at the same time - my hubs and I do a lot of entertaining, and the event feature has been used on multiple occasions.

It's worth a shot if you're interested in just checking it out...