I've got to say. What open eyes is saying is spot on. For years my wife was telling me I had insecurities and I was like "Pah, your the only one round here with insecurities." Within 5 therapy session I am discussing childhood abandonment issues and poor coping mechanisms. People with abandoment issues tend to either isolate themselves or try and draw attention to themselves. I'm an attention seeker but can turn quite avoidant sometimes. I hope he looks into this because its a horrible emotion to deal with.