I totally hear you on that. I can totally identify with 'saving' the calories for nighttime, and the thoughts of, well I can't really have a problem because I eat. AND with the ever morphing quality of the eating disorder. Oh yes. So totally me.

I am glad your T said you are making progress...that writing assignment sounds good too, the 'cage' is a good way to describe it!

Oh the weight gaining process is very very difficult. It really sounds like you are wanting to recover. I guess...maybe if you can trust blindly...for a bit...it will allow you to feel again...maybe don't look at it as your husband "controlling" your eating habits, but that he is going to help you? And maybe plan meals with him so that way you have a hand in what is being prepared/eaten? (just a thought, may not be what your T wants, but that is what I would do to take away the shock factor...)