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... there has been recently several discussions on approaches to our wellness. Lot has been said, but let me just point out few things.
1) "you can't will yourself out of bipolar, just like you cannot will yourself out of cancer". Actually, you cannot get through cancer if you give up. Often it happens person gives up and dies (hence why if people been married for decades and one dies, the other one of dies quite soon afterwards, without showing much symptoms of illnesses before).
And as much as it sounds nice "it's not your fault" upon being diagnosed... it can pretty much doom you, if taken the wrong way.
You actually can do a lot for yourself. And the right attitude does a lot. It helps you through. Go and soul search. Especially if you are doing badly... you probably have not much to lose. One theory is that major set backs are way of life telling you to reflect and change... so if you cannot go on right now... sit back and reflect. Discover. Soul search. There is a way.
2) meds or not meds... I often get "you discourage people from getting the right treatment". But I speak to those for whom the mainstream doesn't work. If it works for you, chances are you are not gonna listen to some chick on the internet... but if you are seeking, why shouldn't I show you what worked for me? You don't have to follow. But if you are struggling... maybe you could consider.
Do what works for you. But please don't medicate "I hate my life, my job and my husband... but proper girls don't complain". If there is objective reason for your problems, it needs to be adressed in some way. And if your loved ones rattle on you for studying this and not studying that, for dating or not dating, for the way you wear your hair and peel oranges... it's often their problem, not yours. As much as it can damage your emotional well being.
And psychdrugs are mind altering substances. They can work on moods... but not really on personality. That's up to you.
3) Spirituality: it's not about God exactly, or about being good Christian. It's about knowing your place in the world, being at peace... we often tend to get morbid or nihilist.... that's where spirituality and philosophy comes. If you think of death in abstract terms, that's for priest or shaman or your soulmate to discuss. Your doctor may not help much here.
4) I do think we have a lot of personal responsibility and that we have our fate in our hands. Yes, there are extrenal factors... but we still have a lot of choices. What ifs are often waste of time. It is what it is.
This is connected with number 3... as I think things happen for reason. We need to learn from them.
It may not be fair, but life just isn't. It could be much worse too, as you could be living some hellhole trapped in (genocidal) civil war or live somewhere where people die because the water isn't clean. And I don't think it's that offensive to say bipolar is better then dying of malaria or cholera or whatever scary disease we only read about here.
to be continued:
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