Fix you need to talk to her about your desire to be special and what kind of comforting and support you are looking for. It is possible that her blank slate approach won't work with you and you may need to find a new T. I am sorry that this is happening and I get it, as I think everyone except a few of us yearn to be special to our T's. There are plenty of T's out there and if this one isn't working then perhaps you can interview new ones till you find a good fit.