so many people here express the need for there T to fill the roll of the mother.
or they want there T to put them above all other clients .to be special.
to comfort them in there time of need.
they want there T to not only like them but to love them

i do not believe i have never really wanted my T to be my mother . the thought of this terrifies me.(although my first councilor became my foster mother with very hurtful results)

i do not believe i have never wanted to be special or put above anyone else. i am terrified of expectations.and know i would never fill the expectations of being special.don't want to be put in the spot light.

i do require that my T likes me and that alone causes me so much pain and doubt in the therapeutic relationship that.i hate that i feel this way. i just cant imagine the pain if i had the expectation of this complete stranger to love me.

i read about how so many people here demand these things from the T ,they expect it. they are angry and hurt when this person tells them this isn't going to happen. some are shocked and feel the T is a horrible person.it seems they reel these things are there right and the T's job.

i am just wondering if anyone have felt this is the job of the T and has demanded this from the T and actually had the T try and be this for their client and not have it end in disaster. without hurt feelings and devastation.

i have seen some talk about how wonderful there relationship is with there T.how special they are. how there T is filling that parent roll.some have been amazingly convincing ,only to have that security pulled away from them. the rose glasses knocked off traumatically.i see people who spend most of there time talking about there relationship way beyond trying to connect how it works in the so called real world but seems to be trying to force the T to change and fill these rolls, i wonder if after so many years of this does the client even remember what has brought them to T in the first place

please don't think i am a therapy hater and all .i am not, i truly on some level do care about my T and care very much about what she thinks about me. i want her to like me. i have huge issues if i think she is hating me and wanting to punish me. like when she has moved my chair so far away and in the corner.but i would freak if ahem loved me or even tried to touch me for many reasons.

i just was wondering has anyone had a T who has filled all these needs and not had it blow up.have they had a happily ever after. and able to separate after they have had a T who has taken on that mother roll.have you been able to let it go without hurt.
have you had your T love you and not have it ended in pain and rejection.

i know i am not without these feelings .yup i get upset and want to e-mail my T .but don't think i have ever put my well being and level of self worth(if i had any) on weather or not she responded or how she responded. most times it takes an act of god for me to actually call her.although i try.

is it really the T job to love us,hold the roll of parent, support us unconditionally? i guess i never thought it was ,i always thought it was there job to help us learn how to achieve this on our own,in our own lives

just a bunch of thoughts .who knows why . maybe on some level i want this stuff from mine.i don't know.just stuff that has been on my mind lately. maybe I'm completely screwed up. in fact i know i am thats why i am here