Granite, i have had the same t for over a decade, he is male so no mother figure there. and we definitely have our ups and downs. i have ran the whole gammit of feelings concerning him, but never wanted him to resemble my mother in any way, shape or form.
He has hung in there during the bad, good and indifferent. and no touching either. i don't want to be in his life, nor have him in mine. but it does feel good when i think he is caring about me.

sending safe hugs...
you are worth t, it does take alot of time, energy, patience, etc. but to me, oh so worth it!!!!!!!