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Originally Posted by like life
I'll grant that I'm not a totally regular poster here, and therefore might miss some of the nuances of the board, but I haven't gotten the general sense that people demand love from their Ts. Would some people like it? Sure. I count myself in that group. But at the same time, I think that what that desire represents is more important than the desire itself. For people who have had to disavow needs for closeness and connection throughout their lifetimes, getting a taste of caring, compassion, or perhaps love, can be dizzying, in good and bad ways.
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I'm not always sure it is love always ,but the need to feel special ,or mothered, and many other things that people would usually find in other people. felling that it is the T job to supply this if they cannot find it outside of T. it causes a lot of pain. i am not saying that it is wrong to want these things out of life . but why demand it from T instead of asking for help in finding it outside of T and more of a germinate situation