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Feb 26, 2013, 02:07 PM
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Member Since: Apr 2012
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Originally Posted by Fixated
I've realized that so much of the reasoning behind why I did things in therapy was clouded by my desire to get T to like me. At times, it pushed me to be vulnerable when I didn't want to be. I think it also altered my perception of T. I tried to excuse away her distance and coldness because I wanted to find the opposite in her.
But how do I know if this is just me trying to run away? And how can I be vulnerable to a T who will never care beyond a paint by numbers sense? It feels like my risks are just expected instead of appreciated. idk
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There is something about hanging in there and staying *in* it until you get over this hump. You'll learn something - and grow from it. You may let go of some expectations about relationships in general that aren't helpful to you. You might also chrystalize some things about relationships that really are important for you. In any event, ideally, you don't want to leave until you feel "clear" to leave without feeling unresolved pain.
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