No I wasn't saying its the T's job to be everything to one person. No one can, or should, be everything to someone. It's certainly not up to the t to meet all the client's needs. I was just pointing out that there's reasons why the therapist can be important and why people can't always get their emotional needs met elsewhere. I don't isolate myself - my circumstances are out of my hands (illness) and it's VERY hard to meet others, although I am trying. I'm actually very independent and rely on myself to meet my own needs most of the time, but when I'm badly triggered as is the case recently, the need for T suddenly takes on more importance because my young part not only feels the pain of the past, but the pain of being isolated NOW. Naturally my T will respond how she sees fit and it can hurt. I don't believe it's my right to expect her to meet my needs but when the child me is hurting and needs her, I will express my needs as they are and feel hurt when they are not met. I think though I need to express what I need because the feelings are so powerful. If I didn't express them I would end up feeling worse. It's a catch 22 for sure.

I'm glad that you don't have such strong needs from your t. I'm sure a lot of people don't. The t relationship is so complicated.