I realize I'm trying to read the tone in your posts, and I don't want to misread it. It sounds like you're angry, but I wanted to check in with you about this. Something about the word "demanding" sounds angry to me.

At any rate, yes, I agree that a goal in T is often to help the client seek and find love, caring, etc., "out there." And at the same time, it can also be helpful to understand the longing to be special or mothered. I personally experience a gap between my intellectual and emotional experiences in T. Cognitively, of course I know that T can't be my mother. Emotionally, sometimes I want to be mothered, and T happens to offer attention and compassion, which kind of feels like mothering. I don't think I "demand" love from my T, but I could be wrong about that. There are certainly subtle ways to demand things. I'll have to think on it some more.