you shouldnt feel bad or hesitate about posting at all. and i am going to read that article. it is not my intention to judge anyone and you are always welcome to ask me about my inability or unwillingness to talk.a lot of people have.if someone posted a question about why some people have problems talking i would answer as best i could and be very interested in what other peoples experiances or questions would be. i don't think i would feel judged.but who knows.

i may have not chose the right wording but i am not judging anyone .because i do not struggle as strongly as some with these issues does this mean i cant comment or ask for understanding. i have friends here who struggle greatly with this and some who don't . i see people who get bashed for it and suported .i want to understand maybe even suport instead oh hold to what my experiances are .

thank you for the link from button i am shure it will be helpful and sorry you felt the need to question my motives