I'm really sorry to hear you like this. I have wondered the same thing for quite some time and I am considering it now as well. I'm on a self destructive path that's leading further away from my loved one and pushing me deeper into my own darkness. I don't know the specifics but if you go into an ER, there most likely going to put you on a hold, where your not able to leave for a determinate amount of time. You wont be "locked up", but you won't be able to leave or do much of anything until the time has elapsed and there obligated to let you go as long as you marginally better. I highly doubt they would inform your work or if there is a short-term treatment center involved (meaning you will be in a care facility not being able to leave, but a lot less restrictive) neither of them are obligated or allowed to contact your work unless you chose to grant them permission. They do, I'm almost positive on this, call you next closest relative which would be your husband to inform them of the situation and to take partial control in the decision process for you. If this terrifies you, you should at least call one of the many crisis hotlines, some are local and have more detailed information about what kind of steps the hospitals in your area will do or the national one which will tell you some stuff, mostly general like what places are legally allowed to do by law and such.

There is also the option of just skipping the hospital all together and going to one of those care facilities and talking with them and seeing what they can do and your options. Unlike hospitals, there not legally obligated to put you on a hold or lock you up unless you're a serious danger to yourself or others OR unless you ask for it. I can't confirm this for sure, I have never heard about this one before, but it would stand to say there not just going to turn you away either. If you can, I would call ahead to them first to see if you can see someone there really quickly and possibly some options. You don't have to tell them everything at first, you could just say that you need help for your problems and it's getting really bad and I have no where to go. At least by calling they can give you some advice if they can't take you on where you can go if the hospital/ER is not a place you want to go to.

Again, I don't know how accurate the stuff above is, it's just what I have learned over the years of thinking of doing it myself and I might, things for me aren't looking to good as well at the moment and I'm scared of myself.

I can say this, they wont contact anyone unless you tell them to OR your badly hurting inside to the point where your an immediate danger to yourself or others. AND they will only contact you closest relative which would be your husband.

I really hope this helps, and please try and stay safe in all of this, I know it's hard and I'm barely keeping myself safe. But I highly recommend you at least talk to someone, anyone. You don't have to tell them your suicidal or anything, but it might help you calm down a bit. Please stay safe and whatever decision you make to go to or talk to, it will be a step in the right direction. Again Please stay safe, if not for yourself, but for everyone who loves you and cares for you, and if that's not enough, please do it for me. I come on here looking for help myself and just talking on here is helping somewhat and I don't want to finish this without telling you, I fully understand you.

Please stay safe.

- Patandorf