Speaking as someone who has been around the therapeutic block, male T's who are skills based just don't do coddling. I think it's awesome to know what you want out of a t, but the coddling has to be developed within your own life, not in the therapy. I know there are people on here who have T's that do that, but in my vast experience, it just isn't like that. I'm not saying its a bad goal, and heck, if you find someone with all those qualities, could you give me their number? I'm just saying T's are professionals only meant to help us to a point and with so much. They can guide us in the right direction but the real work comes in our day to day lives away from therapy. Sorry if this post is a bubble burst, maybe I'm wrong and such a t exists.....